Sexual purity when dating after divorce
Being a teenager during the “True Love Waits” movement meant purity rings in every magazine and purity pledges to sign and frame and hang on the wall.
Maybe you have managed to withhold from going “all the way,” but that “not so bad” stuff has become commonplace in your relationship?The purity ring approach does not work, and here’s why: With all the emphasis placed on abstinence, purity rings might well be renamed abstinence rings. Because abstinence involves our physical interactions with another living, breathing, human being, it can be accomplished through sheer grit, determination, logic, or fear.Because purity is more personal and less visible, it requires the working of God’s Holy Spirit in our lives.It’s really possible and it is definitely worth it!So maybe you are a dating couple who constantly profess with your lips your commitment to sexual purity in your dating relationship, yet with your actions you repeatedly reject its possibility and reality.We can be guilty of treating purity rings and contracts like the 21st Century chastity belt.You, the parent, have placed the ring on your daughter; therefore she must be pure. You have given your daughter a piece of jewelry; has to choose to be pure. You slap a Jesus fish (Icthus) on your car and it makes no difference what you do in that car, people should be able to notice, by the Jesus fish, that you are, obviously, a Christian.Purity addresses how you approach and worship an Almighty and Holy God, and it is a choice you are helpless to make without Him. Have you ever started a new dating relationship with every good intention to pursue sexual purity, yet within a few weeks you cross a line you promised you never would?That ring had provided her with a false sense of purity. It is more than waiting until your wedding night to have sex. Purity even goes deeper than promising to never look at porn again.