How long dating before steady
They have seemingly great mates who have jobs and call their moms and open doors to restaurants- but haven’t yet popped the question.The relationship is traveling into their third (or sixth) year and nothing is wrong except these girls would like to take the relationship to the next level and their men have yet to agree.I’m a believer that couples can have independent timetables from those stated above depending on their circumstances, but partners need to have a mutual agreement and understanding about the future timeline of the relationship in order to survive- and that agreement needs to be upheld.However, if you are asking yourself “when is he going to propose already?! You’ve probably picked up on an inequity in he relationship, and one (or more) of your needs is not being met.What are the issues that might be holding him back?Are these worth addressing, accepting, or rejecting?Couples who fell fast in love were engaged after nine months, and married after 18 months.
These aren’t women who have been dating for two months, but rather women who are in long-term relationships.Only time will tell how modern marriages are growing and changing from those started long ago.What do these timelines mean for you still waiting for your man to propose?If you are focused on the subject, are you missing issues sitting just on the periphery? On one hand, if either of you are still in college or graduate school and not financially stable it might not be a good idea.But a 30-something guy in a multi-year relationship with a steady job doesn’t have that same excuse. Maybe he really is just saving up his pennies and has a plan in place.Many couples are choosing to cohabit as an alternative to or dress rehearsal for marriage.Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.Before bringing up the proposal conversation, ask yourself these four questions: Can you accept your relationship as it is, and remove/ give-up the expectation of marriage?Many women are interested in getting married simply because it’s validated by society, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a ring in order to be happy and have children.And pressing someone for marriage might be brushing over the issues that keep him from proposing in the first place.Couples who have more conflict in a long courtship often deteriorate faster after marriage, and if you are already fighting or tense because of this issue, it might be best to address it now.