8 red flags online dating
A really good exercise I ask my clients to do is to write down every partner they’ve had a significant relationship with, and then, for each, answer questions such as: What attracted you to this person initially? Was your fantasy about this person—what you imagined or assumed to be true—validated in reality? Did revelations during the course of the relationship change your mind? Do any patterns, similarities from relationship to other relationships, emerge?
Learn to ask the hard questions out of the gate, the first or second time you meet someone, before opinions are solidly formed.
But time and experience should help us navigate through future relationships in a much better way.
Red flags are different for everyone, but all too often, we judge people way too quickly for things that might just be symptoms of first-date jitters or bad luck.
You know what’s going to work for you, so make your own rules.
Wearing the same clothes every day, eating peas one at a time, or thinking she got an STD from sitting on a tractor?
Those are ridiculous situations, but also sort of legit reasons to not see a future with someone.